From a conducted life to a self conducted life!

When you are used to the fact that others give directions to you thinking about directing yourself is a huge step out of your comfort zone. Any orchestra musician knows that from the first time playing a solo or conducting for the first time.

It is a necessary step when you want to achieve respect or recognition. The trick is to do the change in a way that others respect you. Anybody knows about its difficulties.

Stepping into new water is a challenge. When people are comfortable taking responsibility it is easier for them than for people who are comfortable to follow.

At a certain point most wish they could do what they think is right.

When you are the Boss or colleague you can support this transformation. Surprise such a person opening a door for them: Ask the person to find a solution on its own and presenting it in front of you and others.

The person might be shocked by your request. It is also a great honour for the person. After all it shows you trust in their capabilities. You trust in the person. Give the person some time to get over the surprise.

There is still the fear coming up in the person: The Fear of success. Now the time is there I have the chance I was looking for. Am I really ripped to fulfil that? This person starts scratching the head: What does my boss, my colleague see in me? Do I really have the abilities that the other person sees in me?

I found it easy to do….. Am I really good at it or was I just lazy and going more after the fun?

Great when you ask yourself such questions. Asking and answering is part of the growing process to: BE YOU AT YOUR BEST!

That is the edge where you decide between enjoying your life conducted by others expectations and needs or conducting your life.

Learning to conduct your life is challenging yet it is a huge chance to live the life of your dreams. There still might be  occasions you have to do things another person asks you to do. That is ok when it saves your life or that of others. There will be a time when you are still asked to perform and act the way you used to do.

Facing the expectations is challenging. For the others it was comfortable they could ask you and you served. You do them a favour refusing to still live up to their expectations. It is a chance for them to grow.

It is always a good idea to learn from others, when you give the guidance to someone better for some time. Both of you should be clear about the limits and conditions of that.

When you are conducting your life you decide who to follow, whom you are leading and whom you partner with. You are in charge to keep that in balance. You are in charge to have the bigger picture for your life in mind.

Give yourself some time to undergo the transformation from a conducted life to conducting your life. Learn to overcome your anxiety. Discover your courage. Develop dedication and persistence in developing yourself further each day.

Learn to take over more responsibility bit by bit. Take the time to thank people which challenge you to go the next step to conducting your own life.

You will only find out whether you get what you want, when you go forward. Setbacks are included in any process of transformation. Start doing what you want. In the end YOU are surprised what you are capable of. Light a candle for each success.

Do what its takes transforming YOU. Do things on a regularly basis that uplifts you to balance all the challenges you have to face. That could be any hobby from dancing, singing to drawing, playing baseball or doing another sport.

Enjoy discovering YOU! Enjoy celebrating your achievements! Enjoy conducting YOUR LIFE!

Larissa Glueck

Photos: sxc.hu

Photographers: candles: runrunrun; ballon: ijes; open door: svilen001; Notes with conductor baton: GinaR